My Point Of View, The medical system & how singing can help!
‘Tis the season for chorus and band concerts. In fact, we just saw our 12 year old son play his clarinet in his school band last Friday and for his birthday (on the 21st) we are taking him to see Trans-Siberain Orchestra 🎼
And that got me thinking about my POV and what I learned a few months ago.
I care deeply about women’s voices being heard.
Here’s why
As a 2nd grader,
I was laughed at during math class when, it felt like, I was the only kid that was finally brave enough to raise my hand and say the wrong answer.
My classmates laughed at me, for it appeared that everyone else knew what the right answer was and I was the only one who I didn’t know what I was doing.
And yes, that seemingly SMALL incident, that most people have gone through, had me avoiding asking questions, for fear of not doing it the right way. This shaped me for decades (and had me convinced, I suck at math).
Yes, you can call me sensitive, I’m ok with it.
Because I was an 8 year old, good kid, who followed the rules, was quiet, had a speech impediment and given a mildly dyslexic brain. Who at that moment didn’t feel protected by an adult (which I never felt before).
This seemingly small incident reinforced many of my behaviors into adulthood.
I struggled (and still struggle) with failure, being wrong (not doing it the right way) and rejection (hence its been 3.5 years since I am finally ok sending a weekly-ish email).
I say this to let you know, if this is you too
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
And being heard will take time if you’re not used to speaking up for yourself and advocating, because you may feel like you are always missing something and not doing it the right way.
And it’s ok. And it makes sense why you choose to stay quiet and not change.
It can feel scary AF!!!
It may appear that other people know what’s best for your health and you seek help from a professional (and this is AWESOME!!! and I highly encourage this healthy step!!).
So when someone emailed me, to tell me her doctor didn’t hear her call for help.
The doctor assumed her lifestyle is a certain way because of her body weight WITHOUT inquiring about what she’s actually doing for it.
I lost my mind 😤
I stomped up the stairs and let out a scream, because this is NOT OK!
Unfortunately this is a common occurrence in our health “care” system.
And while you may be seeking information to empower yourself,
many times, women leave feeling worse then when they went in.
Actually 70% of people feel failed by the healthcare system, TIME article
And feel doubted by their medical pro. Many women feel they have to make drastic changes, to do things the “right way” for their doctor or society.
AND THIS IS BS!!!!!
So what I’m learning is how I best support Women.
And that is by empowering her. Empowering her voice. To give her the information she is seeking to support her:
Self Care
Health
Inner Chat (aka mindset)
fun (micro-true fun)
Time
To be there for her. To help her SHIfT and change
to live life on her terms.
By starting to listen to that inner whisper inside of her and empowering her voice as she makes space to SHIfT into change.
This importance of finding your voice, reminded me of a powerful reel I listened to from the BBC.
They reported on the importance of singing in a choir to improve our happiness and supports emotional regulation 😊
Here’s an article from Oxford University about the positive Body Mind positive effects of singing.
One of the techniques I teach my clients to do is to hum.
Humming uses vibrations to stimulate the vagus nerve, giving us more resilience to take on the world, play with our voice and explore how to use it for constructive solutions.
Humming is a technique that suppors us to surrender (let go of) what we cannot control and focus on the things that are within our control right now.
When we begin to step into our power,
we often go a bit to far when we are learning how to use our voice with people, and cause, what feels like, destruction. Hence why I am here 😉, to let you know that is ok! It means you’re growing!
As I coach my clients, I remind them, You have to break a few eggs if you wanna enjoy an omelet.
A reminder that, the omelet is metaphor for the life we want to live on our terms.
And we need to be willing to change SOME things in how we live our lives.
And because many people are used to how we handle ourselves, people in your life may be resistant to our change and the turbulence can make you want to go back to the way things were.
SAFE - yes
and FINE…
So there it is. If you are ready to move off of the “everything is FINE” step.
Move away from complacency and Move Into an Authentic Life
I AM HERE FOR YOU!!!!
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xo, Coach Lisa
